Sunday, November 28, 2010

Some relationship realizations (on a Sunday)

I have noticed that I am the type of person who has a list of things to do on her mind.

I never run out of things to do. I read from an article (I can no longer remember the source) that this is a manifestation of a person's insecurity, my insecurity. According to that article, keeping yourself busy provides the feeling that you are an important person.

Hmmm... While I may be guilty of that, my never-ending list of things to do is really rooted beyond those insecurity issues. This is another topic.

So on a Sunday, I find myself having planned to do many things. And I realized that whenever I have a boyfriend, I guess it is important that we at least share common beliefs and activities so we can multiple task. And for him not to end up complaining that I do not have time for him.

If my bf and I go to the same church, then this is one activity on a Sunday that we can do together.
If he is also that type of person who is dynamic, I wouldn't feel guilty that I do not have time for him on a Sunday because I see him doing things he has to do on Sunday.
If we are involved in studies together, we can study together on a weekend. That is also one bonding session.
If he likes to read books and open to read the books that I read, then we can spend some time reading together. That would be sweet.

And so I have realized that, at least for me, it is important that my partner and I share similar priorities in life. If we just enjoy eating, shopping and traveling together, then I might have to think twice whether we are for each other 'coz these things do not necessarily always happen on weekends. (And I'm just not that type of person.) I will have to examine our current day-to-day activities and observe how we bond with each other.